Throughout the month of December, I’ll be writing a post a day for the fabulous project Reverb 12.  It’s an opportunity to reflect on the year that’s wrapping up and using the fruits of that reflection to shape the year ahead – in other words, exactly the kind of thing I love to think about!  So, without further ado, here’s today’s prompt.

Crap: What was just absolute rubbish for you this year?  What would you do to change that? Describe something, or some moment, that was just hopelessly awful, and tell us how it could (or could not) be made better.

There were some very difficult interpersonal challenges this year, mostly relating to homeownership.  As is usually the case in these situations, it would have been much easier if boundaries and expectations had been communicated at the outset, instead of practicing the fine art of avoidance until the 11th hour.  When it’s put that way, it always sounds so easy.

I have a pet theory, which is that when we experience irritation while thinking about someone we’re in relationship with, it’s usually because there’s a boundary that needs to be set or reinforced.  Does that ring true to you?  If not, what does irritation in a relationship signal for you?