What can powerful questions accomplish?
One of the most wonderful things about my fabulous training program is that I’ve had a lot of opportunities to be coached, by very talented and insightful people.
There are a lot of things about the coaching relationship that feel magical to me: the way that the client leads the process, the powerful acknowledgment and listening on the coach’s part, the focus on forward motion and measurable progress. The thing that made me very grateful last night, though, were the powerful questions. The questions were so good, in fact, that in the space of 15 minutes, I moved from feeling miserable and stuck to having a concrete and exciting plan to move forward.
You might be thinking – a question is a question. How can those possibly create insight and change? Let me give you some examples.
-What about the idea that saying no to someone else is saying yes to yourself?
-Can you tell me about a time that you did this well? How did that feel? How can you do that now?
-How do you know that your assumption is true?
-Who are you when you’re being a successful writer?
They all broadened my perspective, increased the possibilities, encouraged me away from brooding and toward action, and uncovered good, positive things. A gentle reframing and loving, supportive call to action is such an exciting, catalytic thing to experience.
What are some questions that have done that for you? I would love to hear about them in the comments!